About a month ago, I would have said no, but have since needed to update that notion.
Its conditional.
Surprises are not generally advised, and there are times where touch is an actual nightmare.
But my family is very tactile and in coming here, I have realized that I am actually fairly touchy even with the days where I don't want people touching me at all.
… I really never used to be much for touching. I wasn't against it, really; it just happened so rarely I didn't know what to do with it when it did. But then … stuff happened, and I realised how nice it can be to have a hand to hold or someone to lean against.
I'm not bad at learning people's tells for when touch isn't okay. But I still usually ask first. Surprising people with touch is, uhm ... [ it has ended so badly for her in the past. SO SO SO SO SO SO BADLY. ] Never on my to-do list.
Anyway, uhm. That was a really long-winded way of saying that if you ever want a hug or a handhold or anything, I'm happy to provide.
[ oh yeah, she can absolutely tell. she reached the point where she can and WILL climb wash's armor like he's a jungle gym as long as he isn't wearing his helmet, ok ]
[ maybe she will just leave this wing draped on him. super light. super easily shrugged off. unobtrusive bird hug while they hang out and read. ]
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[Status effects are a Grey Area he's working on.]
[But mind control is throw down time.]
[Gonna mutter darkly some...probably very creative threats because he finally settles.]
[Turns a page of his book.]
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Say, Hamato-san. Are you much of a hugger?
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Its conditional.
Surprises are not generally advised, and there are times where touch is an actual nightmare.
But my family is very tactile and in coming here, I have realized that I am actually fairly touchy even with the days where I don't want people touching me at all.
[Its the sensory issues. Turtle got the autism.]
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[ Flips a page ]
… I really never used to be much for touching. I wasn't against it, really; it just happened so rarely I didn't know what to do with it when it did. But then … stuff happened, and I realised how nice it can be to have a hand to hold or someone to lean against.
I'm not bad at learning people's tells for when touch isn't okay. But I still usually ask first. Surprising people with touch is, uhm ... [ it has ended so badly for her in the past. SO SO SO SO SO SO BADLY. ] Never on my to-do list.
Anyway, uhm. That was a really long-winded way of saying that if you ever want a hug or a handhold or anything, I'm happy to provide.
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I don't usually ask. My family usually knows the signs, when I'm for or against or need it.
[Another pause, until he turns the page.]
If I don't say no, then its yes.
Saying no is incredibly easy.
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Thank you.
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[Maybe he can just hide more in his book.]
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[ all she does is gently brush him on the shoulder with a wing ]
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[...also she will Definitely Know that's a metal shell on his back, to be quite honest.]
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[ maybe she will just leave this wing draped on him. super light. super easily shrugged off. unobtrusive bird hug while they hang out and read. ]
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[He's been getting a lot more bird exposure lately, so its not a bad touch at all, so he will accept it and continue his reading.]
[Once he's done with the book, he'll pull out another. The boy has PREPARED this pillowfort.]